When it comes to a gay wedding for a female couple, one of the most difficult decisions is what to wear. Do both of you wear big wedding dresses? Do both of you wear suits? Does one partner wear a dress and the other a suit? What's the right combination?
The simple answer is this: whatever you want to wear is the right combination! If you both want to wear grand weddings dresses, then do! If one of you wants to wear a slick top hat and tails outfit, then wear it! The most important thing is that both of you wear something that makes you feel fabulous.
Focusing on wedding dresses
If one or both of you decide to go for a traditional style wedding gown, there is a lot you can do to make finding your perfect gown easier, and style guides to help you find the best dress for your shape.
It's well worth your while to spend a couple of hours on the internet looking at different wedding dress designs (there are hundreds of sites out there and it doesn't cost a penny). Pick out wedding gown styles that you like and print them out. If you have a wedding planning notebook, paste them in. Wedding gowns are strange in that there are so many different styles that are "in fashion" at once, so you might be spoilt for choice!
Armed with said wedding notebook, the next thing to do is book an appointment at a bridal gown shop, and you can find gay-friendly suppliers in this book.
An appointment is the best way to guarantee that one of the staff are available to give you their full attention, and it is absolutely essential on a Saturday when every other bride in the area is off work too!
Keeping an open mind
It can be nerve wracking to choose a dress as it's for the most important event of your life and is probably the most expensive dress you'll buy. A good assistant will look at the dresses you like and will make a selection of gowns for you to try on. Keeping an open mind in this situation is so important; you may find that a dress in a style you'd never normally consider is the perfect one!
Wedding gowns and the dreaded body shape
There's quite a lot to bear in mind in terms of finding the right wedding dress. Firstly: shape. There are certain styles that suit certain shapes more than others.
Full skirts and tailored bodices are good for people with bigger hips but a smaller waist as the fullness of the skirt hides chunky thighs and bottoms.
If you're tall and thin, go for softer, elegant lines and wide or scooped necklines. For the very petite, something in an A-line, or a design with princess seams is a good bet, with nothing to cut you off at the waist and make you look smaller.
If you have quite a boyish figure, with a small bust and thick waist, you'll look good in an Empire line, preferably one with some fabric gathered over the bust to make it look like there's more there and balance you out.
If you're self-conscious about your upper arms, you can get wonderful jackets with some dresses to cover up them up, and short bolero style jackets accentuate slender waists and detract from small busts too.
The assistants at these shops know all the tricks so it really pays to listen to them. If you're having a winter wedding you could have had a glorious velvet coat or cloak.
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This is an excerpt from the e-book, to read the extra bits about choosing colours and how to avoid underwear disasters, simply download your free copy of the Gay Wedding Organizer e-book here.
Over to you!
What are you planning to wear for your wedding? Are you both going for dresses, suits or something completely different? I'd love to hear from you, so be brave and let us know in the comments!
There are many cross dressers in this world and maybe they would like to wear a wedding dress. I feel that they should be catered for so they can wear whatever they feel good in. They may not be gay but some are.
I couldn't agree more – oh for a world in which anyone could buy any kind of dress they like and wear it on the day without any problems whatsoever…
I am 6'4 and if I were to get married again (I am a widower) I would love to be able to wear a wedding dress. I love wearing female clothes and make up but do not flaunt it. I drive a horse and carriage for weddings etc and will be doing my first same sex wedding this year. It is two lesbians getting married. I am tempted to wear a little make up but do not want to detract attention for the couple whose big day it is.
john, i'm sure if your make up was subtle and tasteful the brides would be more than happy for you to wear it! eyeliner seems to work well on men! not sure bout the whole lipstick thing but then,i don't wear it myself so what do i know? lol. i hope their special day is wonderful. me and my girlfriend are getting married too, in july. just trying to figure out what to wear!! we both live in trousers but are not masculine. mm,decisions decisions!! ;-]
Hello all, Firstly John, if you get married again. You can get wedding dresses made to size online for around 100 pounds, my wife did. We recently got married, we both have children and they are goth's. So we went for a Matrix wedding to make everyone happy. Most of our guess had reservations but the day was wonderful and wedding went with a bang.
Wow! A Matrix wedding! That's sounds fantastic
and I'm so glad it all went well.
we are having our civil ceremony next year. we dont want a wedding dress. I want to wear a skirt and jacket and my partner wnts to wear a trouser suit that is same as my skirt .jacket design. we just dont know where to go to start looking.. we are also an older couple. Anyone have any ideas please…..